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Sometimes life is generally going pretty well, then something happens that completely shakes your sense of stability.
A relationship breakdown, a health emergency, a family crisis, or another major change can suddenly push your usual coping strategies past their limits. When things go differently to how you were expecting and you are having trouble figuring out what to do next, it is completely normal to seek support.
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I have spent many years supporting clients through all kinds of life challenges, including many queer men who already carry a long history of shame and self-blame. I feel genuinely passionate about offering a willing ear, a gentle voice, and helping to build a sense that something good can eventually grow out of even the most painful situations.
Understanding your story in context
When we first meet, it is important to really understand what is going on, rather than rushing to solutions. We spend time getting to know the situation by looking carefully at both your past and your present, and building this information into a coherent story about where you came from, how you got here, and what is happening for you right now.
From there, we work together to create a treatment plan that supports your future goals. This includes skill development work designed to build your confidence that you can manage the situation you are in, whatever that might be, rather than feeling at the mercy of it.
Using evidence-based tools, at your pace
Although I know many evidence-based techniques to help manage intense stress, grief and change, I do not see my role as simply giving instructions. We might draw on approaches such as schema-informed work, ACT-style skills, or trauma-informed strategies to help with emotional regulation and perspective-taking, but we do this collaboratively and at a pace that feels manageable.
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You already bring a great deal of life experience to the room, and you have solved many problems before. My focus is on helping you access and organise those strengths, rather than assuming you do not have them.
Finding your own way through
I place a strong emphasis on helping you find the answers within yourself. I will always encourage your autonomy in deciding what you want to do, while also helping you explore the pros and cons of different options. At times, I may offer gentle challenges to spark your curiosity, creativity, and confidence in your own judgment.
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If the challenge you are facing feels too big to go through alone, my role is to honour your trust by doing my very best to support you through this issue, and to stay with you as you move through it and out the other side. You deserve to feel supported, understood, and taken seriously, especially when life feels at its most uncertain.