When we’re trying to include something new in our lives on a regular basis, many of us try to just shove new behaviours in and expect them to fit, rather than preparing a comfy home for them ahead of time. So it can be really useful to ask ourselves... What systems do I have in place to support this new habit? Practicing new behaviours to build structure into our routine can be a big part of this, and that starts with solidifying your basic routine before you try to add new s

Practicing curiosity matters because for many of us, there is a powerful cycle between trying to change, hitting a roadblock, falling back on old strategies of avoidance, and resuming stagnation. Getting curious helps break that cycle, because curiosity can be described as the stance of withholding judgment because we haven’t got enough information yet, which gives us a real alternative to falling straight into self-critical conclusions.

Ask most people about their strongest motivator, and the answer will often be ‘deadlines’. Whether it’s for school, work, or chores, we often feel most driven by the urgency of barely avoiding a disaster, and this can become our default response.